Having a child changes everything! And by everything I mean EVERYTHING! Beside the fact that you have much MUCH less time to take care of yourself and the never ending tired we feel from either running around all day, staying up all night with a sick crying baby- basically regular life plus the giant (but fun and beautiful) mess of having children. Your metabolism changes, suddenly you can only eat half of what you used to be able to eat and still gain the fat. Your boobies aren’t as spectacular as the used to be (or maybe they are more spectacular!!!) You have stretch marks. Maybe even you pee a little when you laugh too hard (ummm BTW there is a workout for that one too… lol) Fat accumulated in places you didn’t used to have fat, and tripled in the places you did have fat. It is a big, blubbery, sad mess. Fortunately though by eating right and working out that mess can be changed little by little, day by day into a lean, mean fat fighting machine. 
I am not saying it is easy. It is hard, and some days just plain suck. Some days I am all about jumping out of bed before the ass crack of dawn and breaking a good sweat, but other days I am a lazy, whiny, tired, grumpy workout Grinch---(hmm much like today). But I still did it. And afterwards I was happier, more awake, and ready for the day. I also looked at myself in the mirror before my shower, and even though nothing changed on my body from this weekend when I was feeling like garbage about myself and eating all of the food, I thought I looked healthier and more fit. Its mentality-it’s that amazing self-confidence boost from busting my ass.
You owe it not only to your family, but to yourself to be happy and healthy. And you deserve to see and feel the full potential of your body as a woman. Don’t have unrealistic standards to meet, don’t compete with anyone but who you were yesterday.
Also remember what your body did- it grew a life inside for 9 months, delivered a healthy baby, nurtured and cared for a baby afterwards. Your body is amazing, strong, and it deserves respect regardless of the battle scars it may have. So respect that body by taking care of it!
